Don’t make your children feel like they owe you something. Don’t begin sentences or requests with phrases like “I put a roof over your head…” or “I’m keeping you fed…” because whether it’s your intent or not, this can be easily heard as a threat to pull the rug out from under your child as punishment for non-compliance. This can lead to your child distrusting you, as well as others on whom they should feel they are able to depend.
This is emotionally abusive behavior, and you should purge it from your parenting routine.
let’s talk about THIS: ”Whatever they produce, the new series is being almost obsessively anticipated by its fans, some of whom are outside the London hotel where these interviews were taking place. “They don’t teach you how to deal with that,” says Cumberbatch, who undoubtedly owes his star status to Sherlock. Does he find the obsessive nature of some Sherlock fans just a little, well, too much? “I had a friend who once squeezed her rabbit too much until it started to squeal and she thought it was kind of going, ‘I love you’, when it was really saying, of course, ‘You are the reason I’m dying’,” is his slightly alarming response. “But what I love about the show is that there are lots of people who weren’t outside the hotel today equally excited to see it and are just waiting for it as a quality piece of television. […] The problem, of course, is he [Sherlock] uses social media and it gives a platform for this fan fiction, which is really creative but it’s not really what we’re doing… [online fan fiction that imagines Watson and Holmes as gay lovers]. It’s part of the love people have for the show even if a few of them are quite fanatical about it.”
and THIS: ”Is there a sense that Sherlock’s fandom might love the show a bit too much? Like, they’re Lennie squeezing that puppy in Of Mice And Men?
What a great analogy. Wow. I never would have thought about it as something as dramatic as that. I had a friend who once squeezed her rabbit too much - that’s not a euphemism - [laughter] until it started to squeal, she thought it was saying (in the voice of a rabbit, somehow) ‘I love you’, but it was really saying ‘You’re crushing my ribs and I’m dying’ [laughter].
I would never want to accuse the fans of being anything other than intelligent, thoroughly full-throttle enthusiastic and into it, but what I love about our show is that we have a really broad audience and there were lots of people who weren’t outside the hotel today who will be equally excited to see it, who will just wait for it as a quality bit of television, which is what we like to view it as.
A problem is of course, that Sherlock uses social media, so it gives a platform for this kind of fan-fiction, the slash fiction, which is really creative but it’s not what we’re doing and we’re not doing it for that, so there are some insistences about John and I’s relationship [makes a face, everyone laughs], it’s sort of ‘come on, just drop it now’ you know. But it’s part of the love that people have for the show and even people who are fanatical about it do it for the right reasons.” ____
SEE WHAT HAPPENED THERE? we are talking: - purposeful leading by the interviewer - BC wanting to accommodate the interviewer i.e. playing along - they tailor everything to their need. more controversy = more clicks!
I really wish that once, just once, the Sherlock fandom would be addressed with dignity and respect. Because it isn’t the large majority of us who are obsessive to the point of causing a disturbance. It’s the minority. And I wish that everyone, producers, writers, interviewers, and actors, would all see that. But I also wish that the Sherlock fandom would behave in such a manner that deserves respect.
“I had a friend who once squeezed her rabbit too much until it started to squeal and she thought it was kind of going, ‘I love you’, when it was really saying, of course, ‘You are the reason I’m dying’.”—Benedict Cumberbatch on the obsessive nature of some of his fans (x)
1. White terrorists are called “gunmen.” What does that even mean? A person with a gun? Wouldn’t that be, like, everyone in the US? Other terrorists are called, like, “terrorists.”
2. White terrorists are “troubled loners.” Other terrorists are always suspected of being part of a global plot, even when they are obviously troubled loners.
3. Doing a study on the danger of white terrorists at the Department of Homeland Security will get you sidelined by angry white Congressmen. Doing studies on other kinds of terrorists is a guaranteed promotion.
4. The family of a white terrorist is interviewed, weeping as they wonder where he went wrong. The families of other terrorists are almost never interviewed.
5. White terrorists are part of a “fringe.” Other terrorists are apparently mainstream.
6. White terrorists are random events, like tornadoes. Other terrorists are long-running conspiracies.
7. White terrorists are never called “white.” But other terrorists are given ethnic affiliations.
8. Nobody thinks white terrorists are typical of white people. But other terrorists are considered paragons of their societies.
9. White terrorists are alcoholics, addicts or mentally ill. Other terrorists are apparently clean-living and perfectly sane.
10. There is nothing you can do about white terrorists. Gun control won’t stop them. No policy you could make, no government program, could possibly have an impact on them. But hundreds of billions of dollars must be spent on police and on the Department of Defense, and on TSA, which must virtually strip search 60 million people a year, to deal with other terrorists.
Juan Cole, 08/09/2012
Juan Cole actually wrote this 4 days after a white terrorist, yes, terrorist, murdered 6 and injured 4 people at a Sikh gurdwara in Wisconsin. The terrorist who committed said crime spoke of an impending “racial holy war” beforehand and was a member of white supremacist/neo-Nazi hate groups.
Nope and you can’t cancel the love Watson had for Mary and outright respect Holmes had for her.
What people have done with the literal erasure of Mary in the screen cap is disrespected the actors, the series, and the canon of both the original stories and the BBC series
Because John and Sherlock, Holmes and Watson will always be the closest of friends (even taking into regard the fact that in ACD canon they barely saw, spoke or wrote to each other after Holmes retired) through history and this series.
Have your Johnlock! Write, read (some really great) fanfic, draw, discuss, have groups dedicated to it. Role Play. People have taken nearly every type of media and “shipped” characters since, well, they were created (even Jane Austin and the Bronte sisters wrote fan fiction pairing characters that weren’t originally paired!) But don’t spit on the very actors, story lines, and series that you claim to love, admire and respect.
Will John lose Mary to death? Likely. But the John Watson and The Sherlock Holmes in the BBC series that makes this fandom possible? That have made the art and the podcasts and the meetups and everything else? They would never lower themselves into the dirt to mock and be so disgusting towards such an integral character (sherlock might say some things such as he has with Mrs. Hudson).
Johnlock will never become BBC series canon. That’s been stated by everyone involved in the series to the point of irritation because “fans” won’t respect the choices of the writers of a series they claim to love (barring whatever episode people don’t like).That doesn’t and shouldn’t stop headcanon shipping . It does however, not excuse outright hatred.
Respectful, tolerant and honorable fans? They might not like her, but they won’t erase Mary.
It’s sad and disheartening and quite frankly sickening to see the Sherlock fandom once again become “that” fandom…the one people shake their heads at and can’t respect, get annoyed at, and even hate because the minority of Mary haters are so vocal and have acted in such a disgusting way.
It’s all begun again. The fighting and hatred over a character that, for some reason, people think will destroy their headcanon ship. Mary won’t. You can still write your fanfic. Still ship Johnlock. But can’t you treat Mary with decency? With respect? Without eliminating a strong, intelligent, independent, and major female character?
Finally, Mary seems to be the very woman that many have said they’ve been waiting for in this series. Acting so blatantly misogynistic towards Mary while complaining about the misogyny in Sherlock is the very definition of irony.
submitted to thebritishteapot-a fan with immense respect and decency
I’m publishing this because it’s a wise message. I don’t feel in the position do comment on single posts, statements or pictures, also because I didn’t have the chance yet to see Mary’s haters in action. But I do know about the threats Amanda is getting, and I think this is something that we should discuss about, separately, because it’s a very serious thing.
My opinion is that people should stop hurting both her AND themselves by thinking that sending death threats to an actress would make johnlock canon, or would make those people into a true fans. This behaviour is not getting them - and unfortunately the whole fandom - anywhere but a very bad situation
Finally someone fucking said it. I haven’t heard a single person on this damn website say they don’t want a strong, independent female character on Sherlock. We won’t even get into Irene Adler, because I don’t feel like homicide right now. (I liked her. Shoot me.) But when you look at a strong female character and say “not that one. She messes up my ship,” do you even know how fucking ridiculous you sound? Yes, you can still love a ship. I still ship it. I will ship it to the end of time. But they’re never gonna show it, and all parties in question have said as much. So take a deep breath and don’t be that asshole who thinks if you scream loud enough or get pissed enough or send enough death threats that TPTB will change their minds. They won’t.
Literally just heard a guy say this: “Every girl has this one scent that she smells and she’s DTF.” Is this true? Like, does this actually happen? Because I have NEVER had that experience. He also said that baked goods are one of those scents.
And then the woman he was with just said, I think ironically, “Oh look at the gay couple! They’re holding hands in public! We should take pictures!” The ‘couple’ in question? Were sisters.
“It’s ridiculous. To me, they’re not fans of the show – they’re fans of a show going on their heads. Obviously I love Amanda and I want everyone to react positively to her; she plays a fantastic character and brings a hell of a lot to the third series. If people want to imagine John and Sherlock fucking they’re more than welcome to, but it will have no bearing on what we do in the show.”—Martin Freeman on the death threats towards Amanda Abbington and the already existing hate towards Mary Morstan (via frecklestherobot)
Hey fandom - we know you’re busy losing your minds (lolololol) over our new promos, but take a break for a minute so we can ask for your help. We’re in the process of developing ideas for our online after shows, and…
I love that people on Tumblr get so up in arms about not putting people into gender roles based on if they act in traditionally feminine or masculine ways but always call Kuzco a Disney princess because he’s spoiled and focused on his image
Sometimes I have to take a deep breath and remember that Teen Wolf isn’t actually real and whether or not my ship is endgame literally affects no one, especially not me, and that’s the only reason I can keep from punching someone in the face over the travesty that is the Allison/Scott/Isaac love triangle. Hint, I don’t ship the first and last, or the last two.
- and how he DID NOT COME OUT as any specific identity - and how all the gay men are still rushing to claim as their own - even though he clearly said he “STILL FANCIES WOMEN” - so even if he didn’t come out as bisexual - he’s clearly NOT monosexual - and that fact is being consistently erased everywhere I’ve seen